How to Be Determined?
Indian Board of Hypnosis & Neuro-Linguistic Programming regularly arranges various NLP Training in Mumbai, Pune, Delhi, Ahmedabad & Bangalore, India. In NLP Workshops like NLP Practitioner Training, NLP Master & NLP Master Trainer's Training, etc. one of the famous questions, I come across is: How to be determined in the decided area? Or How to be firm while executing a decision?
Well, most people are over-hesitaters, that's the way I think about it.
When people come in and start talking to me, all I hear in my head is the phrase' needs work' and in order to work, it requires determination. You have to know what determination feels like; you have to amplify it if you have a little picture of what you're determined or you need to have a big picture of what you're determined about. Every one of us wants to achieve something to some extent, determined is the one who has greater urge than the others.
I don't think it's nearly as difficult as most people make it out to be. In fact, I've got a decade of absolute proof that that's the case. Every time I start a seminar at the first break, everybody comes up to me and goes "Well I like this but I can't..." Whenever people say to me, "It's just that I can't blah, blah, blah" that really means I'm not doing blah, blah, blah.
Getting people to switch from 'moving away from' to 'moving towards things' is not all that difficult. I've modelled how people do it, I've studied successful people. You think like successful people and you get more successful at things. If you go on thinking it's genetic, which is what really in the sixties and the seventies psychologist used to think, then success is suddenly made harder.
Or they would say: "Why don't we go back to your childhood and find out how you got screwed up because if you understand how you got screwed up then slowly over the years you can change".
Well, it was a great idea, we've tried it for 100 years and it just doesn't work.
A lot of people know they fell into a pond or river and now they're afraid of water. It changes nothing. But if you could get terrified in 20 seconds, you should be able to get over it in 20 seconds. It's how you think about falling in the pond or river that scared you for 20 years. It isn't the river because the river isn't here anymore. The river's back in Maharashtra at someplace, you're in Delhi now, so you have to change the way you're thinking and then wade out into the water till you become comfortable.
I've done this with fears of water and all sorts of fears. And it's not till you get determined that things change.
What determination is, where you make this statement, you go: "This is who I want to be, this is who I can be," and you do everything in your power to get there instead of going "Well, I knew that would happen."
It's not that people have that attitude for any other reason other than they've been taught to diagnose themselves. "We looked at your IQ test, and you're not the kind of person who gets motivated. That's because you had bad parents, you didn't have a good education."
One should keep it kind that some of the most Brilliant People in the World didn't have a Good Education still they figured out great things.
So, I would say, stop making excuses and start living with determination, you become determined, and this is what I strive to instil and inspire every person I talk to. In NLP Courses of Indian Board of Hypnosis & Neuro-Linguistic Programming, attendees learn a wide range of skills like Sensory Acuity, Rapport Building, Phobia Removal, Coaching, Counseling etc. So what are you looking for?
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